One is by withdrawal, and the other is through anger. In this episode, Joe dives into the topic of feelings, thoughts, and self-pity. Arise and Shine! Become stronger than your fears! Its time to set some personal boundaries, take responsibility for your own needs, and not taking on the emotional responsibilities of others. We do this work in layers. How do we reach a point of truly being able to love? Build a relationship with yourselfLove is an Inside Job! In a dysfunctional family dynamic, the shame is off the charts. And remember if youre struggling, Its Not You; Its Your Trauma. For a free 15-minute consultation: calendly.com/selfloveredefined. Opening up about your trauma can be tricky but it'll relieve the pressure of living in exile to heal. Becoming what they needed us to be so that they felt adored and loved. The Cut. The only way to overcome fear is to stand up to fear. These tapes become our identity, and most of us don't even know that they are there. What we can do to slowly dismantle the false self as we discover who we are through action. Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/. Learn how internal emotional reactions can lead to a downward spiral that includes further depression. Don't waste any more energy maintaining an image that isn't real. Most of us have grieved the loss of a loved one a pet loss, a friend, a parent, or a romantic relationship. In our minds, we keep saying, one day, I'm going to go through that drawer, that box, or that closet. We take action and fight through the false self by allowing ourselves to be visible as we show up for ourself. Acknowledging you cant do all of this alone is the first step and a perfectly acceptable way of attacking the issues head on. It is not a child's responsibility to fill a parent's needs. We come together as one for the relationship. Having all those emotional events put away instead of dealt with is what keeps us down. Love Is Extending Yourself To Somebody Else, Putting The Relationship Ahead Of Individual Fears, And Becoming Emotionally Vulnerable For The Greater Good. It might be just long enough to find yourself, and stand on your own, so you are strong enough to reject the usual dynamics that want to tear you down. You can read as many books as you want. We don't value heart, soul, integrity, truth, and honesty, which makes it is so hard for people to come out of hiding. Listen on Spotify Support this podcast Send voice message Available on Generational Molestation "You Are Not Your Trauma" on The Dr. Wendy Rhodes Show Apr 11, 2023 00:00 01:04:49 Generational Molestation Prophetess Tracey Tucker speaks the truth about the molestation that was generational. I Have To Learn How To Be Around You Without Losing Me. This episode covers many examples of what may be holding you back from being able to have a loving, caring, mutual give and take partnership with that special someone. The ability to eliminate these fears and to work on your own needs and self-worth are covered in this episode. Mint's Sashind Ningthoukhongjam talks to Nikhil Bhatia, ex-Quant Mutual analyst on how to start a career in equity research. We gravitate and cultivate the parts of us that they find lovable and take those parts on as our identity, leaving all other parts of us to wither and die off, but they never entirely go away. This episode dives deep into the feelings of fear- fear of just about anything in your life. This vessel of God talks about how people close themselves off when they are going through it. Through real-life experiences and mindset tools, this podcast provides valuable insights to help overcome any obstacles. She . Healing is your portion. Strap In; It's Going To Be A Long Hard, Tough Road. Laura Martin speaks about how she was able to overcome the generational traumas that have plagued family members before her. This episode talks about what the risk and reward were for Joe as he began to unshackle his, This episode provides the simple reminder that you need to be there for yourself before you can be, there for others! Dont paint yourself in a box. We will have to self validate as when we stop playing these roles; we will enter into the fear that we have been avoiding. In this episode, Joe talks about how to deal with anger and not being afraid of being angry or having people being angry at you. Emotions are energy in motion, and anger has powerful energy behind it. This episode of Its Not You; Its Your Trauma puts you on the right track to finally healing those genetic elements you havent known how to handle. To protect these parts of ourselves, we create a false self. Fear, Humiliation, Feelings of Being Inadequatehow do you handle all of these feelings and how can you fix it? It's a painful arc, but when you come down on the other side of the arch, life gets so much easier, so much better. Laura is a Trauma-Informed Relationship Specialist changing the way we date, communicate, and connect in this modern world. Tune in and be moved by these incredible stories of strength and . Stop using false impressions as a way of avoiding your loneliness; use that energy to find the real you. Scarlett, a trauma-informed life and business coach, two-time world champion bodybuilding athlete, and visionary . Anger is your protection. As we learn how to peel away layers of defensiveness, layers of protection, layers of hiding, and layers of fear. How will you stop fearing the fear? The false self is created when we have to cut off emotions that were unacceptable to our source figures. Free Woman: For Highly Sensitive Person (HSP - Apple Podcasts Learning to get out of your own way is a key step in the right direction. In this episode, Joe asks this question and talks about how to avoid the feeling of worthlessness when we dont get back those signals we feel we need. Follow You Are Not Your Trauma Podcast on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/youarenotyourtraumapodcastand Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/youarenotyourtraumapodcast/Do you have a personal or professional experience with trauma that youd like to share on the show?Send an email tocontact@harrietmharris.com.Get a copy of Stop Stopping Your Success atwww.stopstoppingyoursuccess.com.Interested in advertising your business on You Are Not Your Trauma podcast?See the details here:https://www.harrietmharris.com/podcastad, You Are Not Your Trauma Season 2 | Episode 14: Unveiling the Trauma of Grief, In this powerful episode, we explore the often-misunderstood journey of grief with Jessica Storch, founder of theGrief22. Drawing from his personal journey and professional expertise, Dr. St. John shares his deep insights on the complex relationship between trauma and identity. F Trauma A podcast on Spotify for Podcasters Anger can set boundaries and set limits. By not paying attention or processing them, they start to dictate how we live. A boundary is a responsibility line. Are you living a lie? That's the feeling you get when you start to go back and process the emotional junk drawer of your life. We ended putting those same demands on ourselves, we take that narcissistic power that we've experienced, and we point that power against ourselves. Everything in this life is a mirror, a reflection. In this episode, Joe covers his own journey that has reached the latter part of this process. Not turning into the type of person or parent who messed us up initially. (Read 15 podcast stats for 2023.). Its a big bucket of emotions grief, sadness, anger, guilt, anxiety, confusion, frustration, fear, resentment, yearning, envy, etc. External validation is a temporary fix. Oftentimes we are afraid that sharing what we are going through will only burden others. Or maybe it's that for the first time, all of humanity is on the same page, and I feel connected to the human race in a way I have never felt before. We don't feel safe out in the world because we don't feel safe within ourselves. News . If anyone saw through our false self, we immediately entered into our shame, and the feelings of worthlessness would take us over. It is incredibly lonely removing everything that moved you away from your pain. Even though these events involved different people, we still have this knee jerk reaction to the new and innocent person we are attempting to form a new relationship with. Ironically, we needed to separate from each other to unite. This episode goes into the importance of setting proper boundaries (expectations from yourself and from all others around you). We've become unwilling to walk away from the pain. You Can't Have Real Love Without Being Vulnerable. Once processed and released, we are emotionally lighter now that we have reclaimed space within us where pain once resided. Yeah, there is. Takeaways from Its Not You; Its Your Trauma: 1 - Joe explains why the shame cycle and dynamic exists and how to get free of it. We are not those helpless children anymore; we don't need those defenses that keep us from living the life we were born to live. Joe discusses how the false self shows up in relationships and tries to get its needs met through others, how our family systems keeps us trapped in our role. How do we handle these broken and damaged emotions when trying to build a new relationship with someone who may not understand the trauma we have endured? Men Has Traumas Too! What is the payoff in doing all this original pain work, going into your pain, trauma, and darkness? I Dont Trust That You Will Respect Or Accept The New Me. We accept it as our reality. And the more we learn to love ourselves at the core, the need to wear the mask of the false self starts to diminish, and we grow closer to the authenticity within ourselves. She started a non-profit organization Set The Expectation for this very reason. Apple We Stay stuck by numbing out. After 20 years of living life for everyone else, a woman decided to F.U.C.K. You have been conditioned to be helpless. Hed dig it if youd leave him a review on iTunes, too. Parenting Thru Trauma - A Podcast Resource for Parents, Professionals Through the Trauma Podcast A podcast on Spotify for Podcasters Guest: "You Are Not Your Race" Author and Houston ISD Board of Trustees Fe Bencosme The sea-turtle killing plastic straw goes to THE USUAL SUSPECTS On this week's show: Woke Barbie movie made a killing and even my friends got sucked in; Page couldn't load Instagram. The discussion started with my account being blocked on Instagram, the reaction from friends and followers and how their response leads me to memories that had negative actions on my path up to this point. He defied the odds of what his life should have looked like, but he fought the good fight of faith. We are still trying to become what they wanted us to be; that was the only way we were lovable. Ive Worked Too Hard To Let That Happen. We have got it all wrong. We understand raising kids with significant trauma histories can be chaotic and exhausting, isolating, overwhelming, and even dangerous. Be seen in the process as you work through these critical steps of transformation. Work towards establishing a balance of give and take and avoid the feeling of fear that if you are constantly not doing enough for other people or they will be quick to leave! Take time to figure out why you avoid certain situations and how to trust yourself in certain situations when they come up. The insight in this episode is powerful yet basic. A Sober Girl's Guide Jessica Jeboult was a well-known DJ in the heart of Los Angeles, spinning records at some of the top clubs with the biggest names. They know what everybody else feels. In an enmeshed family system, we have no boundaries, no protection. We procrastinate and avoid the things we need to take care of within ourselves. When vulnerability arises, our nervous system kicks in and takes over and is experienced as deep fear. Don't forget that You Are "NOT" Your Trauma! To become our authentic self, we need to dismantle our false self role and leave home emotionally. Learning how to set boundaries healthily is knowing what you want and why. This episode covers the process Joe has had to practice to make himself feel comfortable and in search of any sense of joy. 7. - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan, - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/, - Submit A Question https://joeryan.com/ask/, - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/, Family System Revisited builds off the Family Shame Episode (Episode 69), in which Joe elaborates on the pressures of family expectations and the toll it takes on a person in trying to fit into a family system.. Joe talks about previous experiences of going through the process of dealing with his fear and how not to avoid doing the things that fuel it. What is Trauma? Unforgiveness allows a hostage situation to take place. We internalized happiness and success based on what society tells us it should be, not based on our internal moral compass. What happens when someone doesnt give back the worth and value we feel we deserve? A new episode will be out in a few days. In this episode, Joe goes deep into the topic of shameand how everyone he counsels lives with it, regardless of nationality, belief system, politics, religion, sexuality, etc. It's no longer about what they needed you to be, it's now time for you to be who you know you are deep down below the role, below, the hurt, below the embarrassment, below the fear. Whether or not we want to live that way. He reveals that It begins with being seen and allowing someone you trust to help you move through the phases of an emotional child to a healthy, emotionally balanced adult. This episode uncovers some important steps you will need to take to move through the process. When setting a boundary, we fear the feelings that arise within us as we anticipate the reaction from those in the system. Our mirror became too painful to look at, and we end up putting too much energy into seeing our reflection from someone elses mirror. Our vulnerability is locked away and guarded as a means of protection from being emotionally hurt. Sounds simplebut its not. There is no shame in asking for helphumble yourself and open up to somebody who genuinely cares for your well-being. Reload page. It just might be. To overcome humiliation, we need to embarrass ourselves to ourself. Your value, your worth, everything you are is based on how the system views you, not on how you view yourself. By accessing our past trauma, we are releasing the shame, self-hate, and accountability we internalized. Podcast providers should explain in the show or episode description which platform is hosting the podcast. Prophetess Tracey Tucker speaks the truth about the molestation that was generational. Learn how you can put yourself in that position to pull that lever and let those feelings flow! We were never taught healthy separation or how to separate at all. We start to slow down because our emotional junk draw is full, and now we have to carry the excess emotional baggage with us everywhere on the surface. Emotional Separation Involves Unbonding and Grieving, Where the Process of Growth and Transformation Meet Loss. consultation: calendly.com/selfloveredefined, W.O.U.N.D. The topics in the Emotional Incest episode delve into how parents use their children to fill emotional holes in their life that stem from an unfulfilled marriage, and how that ultimately affects their ability to maintain a healthy self-image, and relationships in their adult life. We are all working together for the greater good. Even with help, you have to keep putting in the work to move past these feelings. And the stronger you get within yourself. You Are Not Your Trauma Podcast - Original recording - amazon.com We slowly process the pain and fear. This episode delves deep into the protective actions one takes to hide feelings of shame and paralyzing yourself from lifes most simple activities! In the testing, we got into a conversation about part of the recovery process. Something went wrong. Makeup your mind and have the faith in knowing that you have made the right decision for your own well-being. We cut off our needs to meet the needs of others. Within this space is where we create our life our way. Your reactions are being closely monitored by someone who may not have the same past/path traveled. We're taught that for us to survive, we have to abandon ourselves to meet the needs of others. Become A Subscriber https://joeryan.com/subscribe/ Original pain work is the most profound work you will ever do on yourself. If you are not in a place to hear about this topic, are having suicidal thoughts, dont listen and call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. This Is A Love That Only You Can Give Yourself. There is a barrier between the conscious and the subconscious that we can't seem to penetrate out of fear of re-experiencing the original emotions from the events of the past that now cause us so much pain. We will never be able to work on dousing those fears and getting comfortable with being who we are. When we belong to self, the judgment from others starts to matter much less. Free Consultation: calendly.com/selfloveredefined, To be a guest on the podcast: calendly.com/selfloveredefined. Is your inner safety based on the people around you? In this episode, Joe talks about the importance of navigating through the process of allowing yourself to grow relationships instead of cutting them off at the knees once they start to really get rolling. Put people where they belong in your life and press forward by ending 2022 stronger than ever. In this episode, Joe talks about the self-conscious, shame-based feelings that he constantly faces and how he has learned to deal with them without mood altering. 3 - Youll learn how to recognize if you are giving yourself shame-filled messages. Dr. Saketopoulou brings a wealth of experience and a unique perspective to this enlightening discussion.Topics discussed in this episode:Understanding Trauma CultureThe Risks of Trauma IdentityNavigating Trauma without Reinforcing Trauma IdentityGuest Info:Dr. Avgi SaketopoulouGet a copy of Dr. Saketopoulous book, Sexuality Beyond Consent.Email: avgisaketopoulou@gmail.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/Avgolis98Website: http://http://www.avgisaketopoulou.comIf you find this podcast helpful for you or someone you know, I invite you to share with others, subscribe to the show and follow You Are Not Your Trauma Podcast on Facebook & Instagram.Subscribe to You Are Not Your Trauma podcast on iTunes, Spotify, Google Podcasts & AudibleHelp support the mission of the show by donating at http://donate.youarenotyourtrauma.com/. Your generous contribution will enable continued creation of empowering content and positively impact the lives of those affected by trauma.Visit www.youarenotyourtraumapodcast.com\ to get details on upcoming episodes and guestsFollow You Are Not Your Trauma Podcast on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/youarenotyourtraumapodcast and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/youarenotyourtraumapodcast/Do you have a personal or professional experience with trauma that youd like to share on the show?Send an email to contact@harrietmharris.com.Get a copy of Stop Stopping Your Success at www.stopstoppingyoursuccess.com.Interested in advertising your business on You Are Not Your Trauma podcast?See the details here: https://www.harrietmharris.com/podcastad, This is spectacular. Visit youarenotyourtraumapodcast.com to get details on upcoming . See how controlling emotions is crucial and not letting people tell you that you have no reason to feel (insert the emotion- sad, lonely, etc), even though you dont know why you feel like you do. If you are someone who has just started your graduation or is confused about your career path, this episode is for you. Listen to this heartfelt conversation with Kari Petruch of Highest Intent Life Coaching, LLC. Joe uncovers a number of emotions one feels when experiencing this sort of treatment and the steps necessary to course correct yourself now, and in the future. It usually comes from a traumatic event or series of traumatic events or persistent failure to succeed. We start by getting quiet within ourselves and paying attention to what feelings arise. Feeling Sorry For Yourself, And How Do I Reveal My Trauma In New Relationships. At this point, they try to start separating themselves to find their own identity. As we peel away the layers, the closer to the shame we get. This woman of God is destined for greatness. Part of the grieving process is to get to the point where you accept your role, you accept how you showed up, you accept the humiliation, and you accept all of the good and all the bad. She has dedicated her life to helping others navigate their unique paths through grief.This intimate conversation provides insight into Jessica's journey, while providing valuable insights into the grief process, and advice on how to transform our tragedies into triumphs.Remember, you're not alone on your journey!Topics discussed in this episode:Understanding Grief as a ProcessThe Dangers of Unprocessed GriefNavigating the Grief JourneyGuest Info:Jessica StorchIf you find this podcast helpful for you or someone you know, I invite you to share with others, subscribe to the show and follow You Are Not Your Trauma Podcast on Facebook & Instagram.Subscribe to You Are Not Your Trauma podcast on iTunes, Spotify, Google Podcasts & AudibleHelp support the mission of the show by donating at http://donate.youarenotyourtrauma.com/. Your generous contribution will enable continued creation of empowering content and positively impact the lives of those affected by trauma.Visit www.youarenotyourtraumapodcast.com\ to get details on upcoming episodes and guestsFollow You Are Not Your Trauma Podcast on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/youarenotyourtraumapodcast and Instagram https://www.instagram.com/youarenotyourtraumapodcast/Do you have a personal or professional experience with trauma that youd like to share on the show?Send an email tocontact@harrietmharris.com.Get a copy of Stop Stopping Your Success atwww.stopstoppingyoursuccess.com.Interested in advertising your business on You Are Not Your Trauma podcast?See the details here:https://www.harrietmharris.com/podcastad, You Are Not Your Trauma Season 2 | Episode 13: Unraveling Traumas Influence on Identity, In this weeks episode, Imjoined by Dr. Don St. John, an accomplished psychotherapist, teacher, author, and Mestre. Learn to dismantle your family system's role to live and deal with the uncomfortable feelings of judgment and shame from your family system! 6 Trauma-Informed Podcast Episodes - ChildSavers We get stuck at a developmental stage of childhood. When unacceptable feelings and emotions we expressed, we were shamed and emotionally abandoned. Have you been searching for a way to vent your frustrations without being judged? How to get a job in Equity Research? - Why Not Mint Money - Spotify We have never known any other way than to completely experience pain and accept that as the reality of our lives. As with all children, there is a separation that needs to take place. When you set a boundary, you are letting someone know where your responsibility ends, and their responsibility begins. Anxiety, fear, suspicions & mistrust, inadequacies, etc are powerful roadblocks in your path to freeing, yourself. Joe discusses how shame lives in the darkness, creates isolation, and doesnt want to be seen. Your Job Has Been To Manage Your Emotional Well Being, Keeping Yourself Emotionally Safe. Humiliation brings a vast wave of powerful, uncontrollable emotion that can lead us into a shame spiral and emotional paralysis. Learn to speak up and stand up for yourself without all the pain it may trigger! This episode deals with suicide, suicidal thoughts, and suicidal feelings. We have mirrored our experience as not being valued, loved, or worthy of being cared for and carried it as our self perception. The stronger the connection with self is, the less we need to rely on or use others to meet our own needs. What their anger level or resentment level may be? Can We Stay Past Our Limits Of Emotional Discomfort To Expose Our Needs, Wants, Desires, And Fears For The Greater Good Of Love? You're Not Crazy It's Your Trauma | Podcast on Spotify It's one of the biggest underlying causes of depression. - Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan, - Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/, - Submit A Question https://joeryan.com/ask/, - Subscribe To All Episodes https://joeryan.com/subscribe/. Encouraging and Empowering others to keep moving forward to your greatness. Most of us never left home emotionally; we have stayed loyal to our family system by staying in our false self role, by abandoning our authentic self. Growth is always possible. The more you mirror your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions, the less the outside world matters. Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is developed over long term trauma, such as chronic neglect, physical, sexual and emotional abuse and more. Thank you for journeying with us during this inaugural first season of "You Are Not Your Trauma" podcast. Illana Watts gives a brief synopsis of how her faith carried her through to make the right moves at the right time. We were molded into the role by being conditioned through shaming, anger, and fear. Episode One: You Are NOT Your Trauma! Midnight Haze Personal Journals In this episode we dive into my childhood trauma and experiences. Find someone who can help you get to that placetime is ticking away, and its time to lean into your fearsJoy is waiting to take over your life! Many of these shows never see the light of day on podcast listening apps or in the media, so it can be difficult to suss out which are worth your time. Finding value within yourself and feeling the freedom to live a life based on how you feel, not how others need you to be. Nothing much happens: bedtime stories to help you sleep. Listen to this episode from Why Not Mint Money on Spotify. You cant outfox it. This episode uncovers critical steps to learning how we all come from different places in our feelings of vulnerability, yet we can all take the same steps to fix our fear of feeling vulnerable! I also share some ways I've learned to cope and heal from them. In this episode, Frank and Starr are starting 2023 motiving listeners to achieve goals to break into . Now A Different Kind Of Emotional Work Begins; Soul Building. . In June 2022, Spotify announced that there were over 4 million podcasts on its platform, though Amplifi Media and Podnews determined that only 155,000 were active. Today I Answer Your Questions. Validate From The Inside Out. Realizing Fear, Trauma, Anxiety, Panic & Shame doesnt go away by itself. I am also a former sufferer, having struggled with anxiety disorders and clinical depression for more than 25 years of my life before finally fully recovering around 2008. We all must conform to the system's rules, or else we will be shamed and abused into line. We keep repeating the process until vulnerability becomes a strength. What are we reflecting on ourselves? Weekend podcast: a Michelle Obama exclusive, peeing: to sit or not to Start Investing In Yourself By Learning How To Live The Unlived Life You Desire. Listen to this episode from The Cyber Huddle on Spotify. That is what will keep us safe. What it is : " The Cut is a powerhouse of women's voices tackling a wide range of . You Are So Not Alone the podcast (formerly the in raw life podcast . What is the recovery process? There is no separating, it's conformity. A boundary lets others know where your responsibility for them ends, and the responsibility for yourself begins. Both are reactive, not proactive. Being an advocate and the reasons behind her being a strong woman raising children while removing herself from the grips of domestic violence. It is also the most difficult! When we open ourselves up to vulnerability, we enter a part of us that we have not owned yet. Why is happiness so elusive for some? Trauma is something weve almost been taught to push it down, and throw it away. The difference is that now it will be your choice who you choose to be there for and how. God can restore, rebuild, reconstruct, and revitalize you better than before your trauma, abuse, rejection, etc. This episode serves as an exploration of traumas effects on self-perception and the road to reclaiming our authentic selves.Together, we navigate the complex terrain of traumas influence on identity with the guidance of Dr. St. John. It will help you to become brave and courageous to help you become humble and ok to accept help from someone qualified to help. vs. feeling that you are being supported in your position. Learn to set boundaries and not allow people to disrespect you and cross lines. To dismantle fear, we must purposely lean into our vulnerability, not avoid it. Apple Podcasts Preview. Subscribe to You Are Not Your Trauma podcast on iTunes, Spotify, Google Podcasts & Audible When we were abandoned as children, we learned that to matter to our source figures; we had to leave ourselves and become what they needed us to be. Privacy policy - Spotify We store these things in drawers, closets, storage bins, or wherever.
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