My 23M friend 24f kissed me 1hr ago while she was drunk . I am Seems like unnecessary drama. She also has to deal with some sexual difficulties, although I manage ok. You should meet up with him again and finish off the kiss. But I did. However it is likely that whatever behaviour you were demonstrating the night you kissed another man, you might need to control better or the same could happen again and the trust could be shattered forever. However, if the guy makes an issue out of it (which I doubt will happen) just tell him that your not gay. It was a great show. We need to talk. I could hear the concern in her voice. Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators, Music Production Commercial I wasnt turned on. I told her what happened, like I just told you, and thats when my gal pal said that word to me. Maybe not, but, I felt like I had few options. Then around noon I started to get calls from Jane. I really feel like kicking the **** out of him for what he done. I just started drivingno idea where I was going to go. Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. My guy best friend kissed me when I was drunk and now male The friend never showed, but another mutual friend did. WebAccording to him and a bouncer, I didn't just kiss this guys cheek, I also kissed his neck and lips, then proceeded to fall on my arse and walk up to him. The relationship obviously began deteriorating at that point, which only further exacerbated my paranoia and despondency. My friend said she felt what happened to me was rape. Id never do anything to hurt you. Otherwise, I figured this would haunt me forever. yin and yang I'm saying that it would be more mature to know that you will be in a position to be compromised more easily and so take steps to avoid that, ie by not drinking so much that you are not in control of yourself and in danger of passing out. Then on the 6th visit, he said something I will never forget: Until I take responsibility for what happened, I will never get past it. Plus, such a complaint by her would fit the script of what normally happens: man attacks woman, right? male Then I received a text; my flight out of town was going to be delayed an extra day due to weather. Jane texted apologizing, again, and said she wanted to talk. reader, Cerberus_Raphael+, writes (22 November 2010): A She gives me her phone number, then a kiss, and then drives off. My childhood crush was kind of flirting with me, but hes a flirty guy so I ignored it. male Black Out Drunk And A Guy Kissed Me | Relationship Talk reader, eternallyinfinite+, writes (22 November 2010): A But I was exhausted. Environmental Issues, Home Automation & Internet of My friend kissed me when I was drunk Hey everyone its me again I know I posted her a while back but I need to ask my friend kissed me while I was drunk but I My first sexual experiences happened at an extremely young age, something that was not due to molestation or rape at the hands of an adult, but rather child-on-child sexual abuse initiated by an extremely close friend. That'll be the best way to get it out of your system. He bought me a drinksome sort of mezcal martini thats popular at that particular establishment. For some reason, I decided to tell this story to two separate female partners in the time since. I had been drinking prior to the party and so by midnight I was very intoxicated. This is the part that continually shocks me to this day, but I didnt realize I had been assaulted. I can not remember what we talked about at all. Someone I had shared laughs, tears, and great intimate times with that I trusted with my body and secrets. WebOn the part of forgiving yourself, maybe you need to find out why you got drunk, why did you stand close to him to kiss you and what would you do if the shoe was on the other foot and -3 TheGodfajah 10 yr. ago Wait, so was it a kiss or making out? I guess I refused to see what happened as rape because, like many, that word is reserved for what happens to womenand to be honest its often related to physiology. It was Thursday night, and a few friends and I went there because I didnt have to go into school until very late on Friday. I was 14 years old, and the girl was 16. This is the first thread Ive felt qualified to contribute, which I suppose is a bit of a mixed blessing. if this is the consequence, losing the person I love most, then I will have paid dearly. by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk Next ), Over the course of a few dates, Jane and I found out that we had a lot in common, including friends, but we also realized that we would not work as couple. But then again, isnt that just another version of blaming the victim? In fact, the plan was for me to stay over at her house on my last night in town and then catch my flight home in the morning. Again, I realized I did not want to end up in a hospital and/or a jail cell with only a few hours to go before my flight back home. Why did I kiss someone else while I was drunk? After I had finished, he started to counsel me, and it went ok at first. reader, Danielepew+, writes (22 November 2010): A Tell him to shave first tho! Ive never hated anyone so much for what they had done to me. Not fully awake, I felt Jane cuddle and then start running her hands over me. find me on and follow me on, tagged in Kids I went to a going away party this weekend and got blackout drunk at the end of the night. I told you NO but, you wouldnt stop.. It's just one possibility. Instead, I say I was forced into sex because I felt I had no good exit given the circumstances. How could she put me in this situation? At one point, she grabbed me and started giving me oral. Do you think he will try and work through it with you or do you think he will walk? So, I did what I felt I had to do in order to get out of the situation as fast as I could: I gave her what she wanted. I Makes you not want to drink as much next time? Hopefully someone out there can take something valuable from my experiences. I tried to rollover and forget what just happened. In both cases, they listened attentively, and then responded in almost identical fashion, If you were on top, then it wasnt rape.. Don't take what people do when they're drunk as signs of bigger things. Nothing more. reader, pollywolly101+, writes (22 November 2010): A My friend (who knows) tried to wedge herself into the conversation while I took my buddy to the bathroom to fill him in. She was on the edge of the bed getting dressed. Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! how was he to know you thought he was your GF? I take it the guy who did the kissing was also very very drunk. I started having lots of nightmares on the subject, however, and didnt realize it was rape until I tried to argue against someone that it wasnt and realized I couldnt defend my position. I recognize chances are slim I'll be forgiven, but I love him dearly and could not be more regretful of the choices I have made. I woke up in the morning, confused, face down, and naked. Login first I would have to send the message out that this will not be tolerated on me. v5.00a - 0.38564s [RUM] 2023-08-19 04:56:27. She apparently owns the apartment. When he dropped me off at home, he told me to be more careful in the future and drove away. WebKissing that guy wasnt your motive. I went inside and sat down for an hour. My head was so fogged that I was convinced that this could not be real. A You got shtfaced and taken advantage of, maybe you'll actually drink within your limits next time. As I got in my rental car to leave, I felt so cold, alone, and violated. I Kissed Another Guy When I Was Drunk, Should I Tell My Boyfriend? Add your answer to this question! But I remembered a 24-hour diner nearby, so I headed there. WebYes. Don't do anything, sure this fella was a dirty moron for doing that, but no harm came from it. Yes, I know that drunken one-night stands happen. Ive told some of them about what happened. She was much more worldly, and very pushy. Perhaps the answer is not to get as drunk when you are out. As the sun was coming up, I left the diner, called a good friend of mine from out of state, and we talked as I sat in the car in the parking lot of a big box store. Our relationship was the most stable and regular one Id ever experienced. Web#1 They are attracted to you You're ranking in the game of attraction. WebHe's probably just attracted to you, and when you're drunk and your inhibitions are down it's a lot easier to act on that. Just a few nights ago, a new addition to our social circle got swept up in conversation with her, and she began acting aggressively. I knew I had to have been drugged, but the concept of being raped by a woman didnt even enter my brain at this point, at least not consciously. The dream doesnt end, and thats when I start to be afraid. I kissed someone while I was pretty drunk. But I told her she would never hear from me and to never contact me again. I got about halfway through mine and we got up to do some dancing. I then remember being in the bedroom and her pushing me against the wall while kissing me. We were near engagement, so it's a very serious relationship. The whole experience was extremely unsettling, not least because I contracted a rather painful yeast infection from her, and visited several doctors who all told me I didnt have an STD (VD, in those days). What does drunk friends kiss and I Love You mean? Do NOT tell your girlfriend - for the love of Science H Logic man, don't tell her!! female Once everyone sobers up there's usually much awkwardness and embarrassment. After giving her the oral she demanded through her vice grip on my head, I faked an orgasm after a few minutes of doggy-style sex just to get it over with. We neither speak nor acknowledge each other, though my friends are close to her. I still dont. This next reader didnt appear to be drinking a lot that night but was fast asleep when the incident began: I still cant bring myself to use the R word in reference to what happened. Things have gotten better now. Thats not to say things are better for women. When I woke up this morning, a friend told me that I kissed some random guy on my team. We have sex, again apparently. I'll just say this; anyone who believes he has a right to get drunk and pass out, should be big enough to acknowledge that he most likely will do something he isn't proud of, make a fool of himself, put himself in dangerous situations, etc, and when it does happen he should accept it and not then blame others "because he had a right to get drunk and not have **** happen". We didnt speak for two weeks, and then she called me to tell me it was over. I made a mistake and now I regret it so much. The worst is when sex is all thats there. Changing the name of it doesnt make it any easier. We often hear comments from people that get echoed in our media questioning the stories of victims or make statements about clothing choices, or other aspects, that these self-appointed authorities believe tempted someone into raping. Can't imagine what was in his mind, unless the drink brought him out of the closet. Quora - A place to share knowledge and better understand the world Its very isolating. WebIf a guy kissed me when he was drunk, does it mean he has feelings for me, or it was nothing important? You likely know him better than anyone so how do you feel he will react? Whether that drunk kiss was intentional or unintentional, you are in a relationship But I cant help shake the feeling mentally that, other than her, nobody knows, and nobody would care if they did. I just hope that this story is helpful in some way. Who knows what will happen the next time you are passed out drunk. Was it the best choice to just give in? Around the time I decided to get into bed, I blacked out. If you know that this is the catalyst for flirting and cheating on She tells me that I fell asleep in the middle of it, and so she went to bed after she couldnt wake me. Nothing changed. For a start there's a severe anti-gay tone to it. My partnerthe longest relationship I had ever had at that point and a woman whom I loved dearlyhad graduated in the same class but was clearly bound for bigger and better things. Sleeping naked, it was easy access for her to fondle me. These have all blended together in ways both positive and negative with regards to my love life; I have never had a relationship that wasnt either extremely passionate or crazy or both. I would avoid him completely, and if he made an off colour comment about it in the future, then you should make it known then how revolting it was! Don't get comatose again. Don't make a big deal out of it. Because it was so early, I dont know what to do or who to call. On the flip side, I can be extremely sweet, caring, and tender, to levels that my partners attest they haven't experienced in past relationships. But where can a young man go when hes facing a situation like mine? Interaction, Climate Change, Sustainability & Eventually I find them and put them on, but they do nothing to remove the blurriness from my perception. If a person slipped up once in a relationship and kissed Should I leave him alone while he makes his decision? Do Drunk Kisses Mean Anything (Yes a Whole Lot of Things) She didnt want to hear it. Here's a little boy who's so insecure in himself he has to beat up someone who kissed him, just to prove that he isn't gay and can't "be taken advantage of". I also know that when I think back on this I am equal parts angry, disgusted, and disappointed that I didnt stop it. As background, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and were quite happy together. Should I tell her? As I rolled over, away from her, facing the wall, I closed my eyes and started to feel tears rolling down my cheeks. female I let her stay over because she looked like she couldnt even walk The nightmares never left. reader, Racna1305+, writes (22 November 2010): Already have an account? After pushing her hands away, she became more aggressive. Nothing became clearer. The booze provoked your brain. I agree. Only my wife knows and sympathizes. You forced me to have sex with you last night. I begged her to stop, but she didnt. Put it down to experience and move on mate; in fact congratulate yourself that you are attractive. Bye! She said that in a cheery, normal, not-hungover-at-all voice and walked out the door. I got up slowly from the bed, trying to not to wake Jane. Wed chat from time to time and maintained a presence in each others lives because, like I said, we enjoyed each others company and the sex was great. He asked me exactly what happened, and I told him as best as I knew. We took one of their tables, and we all ordered drinks. Ive had other friendsladies, mostlysay yes, thats what Jane did. This time it was boy-to-boy kissing, next time it could be a stabbing, STD, robbery. If you know that this is the catalyst for flirting and cheating on your partner, then maybe dial things back a bit so you can look at a situation like the one thats passed with a clear head. Why did she not respect me? Whoa! I looked at her as I got back in bed. Or can you trust yourself to not do it again? I also fully think I deserve whatever I get, so please refrain from name-calling in your responses.That said, I'd like advice for what to do. 2023 FemaleFirst Ltd. all rights reserved. A few months after moving away, I came back to visit family and friends for about a week. As I am filling up a glass, I remember talking with a girl in the kitchen. I also know that I did not want this, and that everyone there knew that I had gone to sleep early because I was too drunk. OP personally I know what I would do, I would kick the **** out of him. NO, you are not a cheater. Went out last night (thursday) with friends from my course and their I tell her that I cant find my glasses. Its more likely that I got drunk and wanted it, isnt it? I still dont know how to classify this. There are only victims. That was not just my opinion; we were such an item that our friends referred to us as the old married couple, a moniker we took great pride in. I tell her I need to go home. The kisser has a liking for you unless you take the first step. I became afraid that she would leave or that I wouldnt want to follow, and I began coping by drinking and closing myself off. Retrospectively, that was a bad idea. Eventually, after a long time, it went away on its own, with me completely ignorant of what it was until many years later. I remember having my shorts and shirt still on and going into the kitchen. Web10 Answers - ( Newest, 22 November 2010) A female age 41-50, anonymous writes: As background, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and were quite happy How to forgive myself for kissing someone else - Tiny Buddha I wasn't even there! Also, I thought if the cops were called she might turn the situation on me, claiming I raped her because there could have been evidence of the sex we had earlier that day. Its a complicated subjectone that has no easy answers or identifiable parties to blame. I had. If you approach them, there's no denying that you like Or can you trust yourself to not do it again? But she wouldnt stop. no i havent told my girlfriend. The guilt eats me inside, if I tell her Ill be relieved but she will most likely Even though you kissed him back, you did it while you were under But, like I said before, I was concerned for my own physical safety and having to deal with the legal system on my last night in town. I kissed a guy when I was drunk, told my boyfriend and now I don't This next reader also blacked outand owns up to that fact: First, Id like to start by saying that Ive been a huge fan of the Notes section since its inception. I was extremely drunk and I dont remember much but someone kissed me in the club, only a few days ago. Oh ffs, helpful replies only please Pigman and zabbo. Could also mean they were drunk and horny. WebAnswer (1 of 6): Could be. With my plane leaving in about six hours, I saw that scenario leading to medical treatment and/or legal problems for one or both of us. The majority of talk around men being raped in our culture centers on sexual violence committed by men in positions of power on young boys, like what happened in the Catholic Church. Perhaps the question to ask yourself is if he had done the same would you want to know? I was sleeping behind a bush, about 30 miles from the bar and my home. I had just graduated from university and was in a rut. WebSo both me and a girl were drunk (her drunk enough not to remember the next day) I already said it happened while in my hangover the next morning but I feel guilty that we kissed One weekend, she and our mutual friend group left town to go to a concert in the country. A woman enters the room after a time. I honestly dont fully know what to call this story. female As soon as I was done, I got up, went to the bathroom, splashed some cold water on my face, and tried to gather myself mentally and emotionally in the mirror. Im so upset. If it was just a drunken kiss and a one time mistake I wouldn't want to know. Jane started to touch me even more. Was thinking that you were leading up to a drunken kissing incident with a girl not your g/f. Theres not much in my life that I would like to eliminate from my memory, but the look on her face when I said those words is one of them. The best is when sex is part of a broader friendship focused on enjoying time together. WebMy 23M friend 24f kissed me 1hr ago while she was drunk . He advised me that one of my other friends (a woman) was very mad at me and I should avoid her, since I went home with a stranger the night before, and he had never seen anyone get so drunk from one drink. My scenario was neither of those. I went inside, showered, and got ready for class. reader, FloridaCatGirl+, writes (22 November 2010): A They are sympathetic but I can tell that they dont really believe me. This I don't remember. There is so much wrong with this I don't know where to begin. I was woken up by a police officer poking me in the ribs with his nightstick around 10 in the morning. I just remember a series of images that do not seem real. I kissed someone while black out drunk - Infidelity - eNotAlone But, with her being drunk, rough with me, and refusing to take no for answer, I realized that it might lead to a fight in order to escape. Caught by surprise! Should I Tell My Boyfriend I Kissed Someone While Since it was a friends house, I decided to go ahead and fall asleep in the spare bedroom rather than continue drinking and get sick/embarrass myself. Now my boyfriend rightfully won't speak to me. In fact, I was the opposite. But, I still cant say it in reference to myself. When Jane returned home I wasnt sure what time it was because I didnt hear her or see the clock when I was partly roused when she got in bed.
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